Here's a interview with Lila Shoemaker, our 2014 Mother of the Year:
1)
What did you do with your children when they were younger that you think
has impacted their lives today?
Church, scouting and music. We
lived in Fullerton, CA when we got married and our first three sons were
born there. I’d read to them, Dr. Seuss to learn their ABCs and Bible
Stories to learn about God. Daniel had earned his Eagle Scout rank as a
young man and became Scoutmaster. For a few years and we had the troop
meet at our house each week. My job was to see to get a fire permit so
the boys could practice fire building and campfire cooking. Our sons
loved scouting. All four of them earned their Eagle rank.
I taught all
six of my children how to sing. When the 3 boys were little, I’d make up
songs to sing to them so they would get ready for bed or do things I
needed them to do. I taught them to sing “I Want A Girl Just Like the
Girl That Married Dear Old Dad”. My husband was a pretty good musician,
too. The four of them sang on stage at a church variety show all
dressed up like a barbershop quartet. All of us play a musical
instrument as well as sing. Music was probably the best thing I ever
taught them. We love camping, riding horses, swimming and playing games;
all kinds of games, but we love music the most.
2)
Share some
experiences you’ve had with your family and/or others because of your
involvement with music.
I grew up singing with my twin sister and in
the church and school choirs so it was natural for me to encourage my
children to sing. I performed in the school musicals. My oldest son
auditioned and won the role of King Arthur in “Camelot” his Sr. year of
High School. He, the next two boys, played band instruments and marched
in the school band like their father before them. Our daughters
performed in their high school musicals. They loved to sing and
performed for school talent shows and sang in the choirs. We paid for
private lessons. We made a very nice mixed ensemble, all 8 of us. I’ve
directed a church choir for many years and for the past 9 years I’ve
been teaching violin and guitar classes after school at Burke Basic.
It’s wonderful to see the joy on their faces when they learn how to
play. Music makes life worth living.
3)
What advice would you give
young mothers?
Have fun! From the first moments try to make them smile.
Play finger/toes games with them. Read nursery rhymes sing silly songs.
The sillier the better. Dr. James Dobson said that the “dizzy blonde”
moms were even better than the “draft sergeant” moms.
Routine is a good
thing. Have a morning routine, afternoon routine and bedtime routine.
Make it fun. Learning can be fun. If they enjoy learning (and a variety
of games can teach just about anything) they will be good students all
their lives. Ask me about my list of homemade games that teach things.
The Weekly Reader was something my mother used with her kindergarten
kids. That was a fun teaching tool. Numbers can be fun too, not just
numerals but quantity. Counting things will help them learn to sequence,
addition and subtraction. You’d be surprised how much fun counting can
be. Colors, drawing, painting, clay molding, etc. etc. It’s fun.
4)
When life gets difficult, what do you do to get things back into
perspective?
I sit at the piano and play my favorite songs, hymns or
classical pieces and sing. Or I go into my room and read a good book
(the scriptures are always good). Mostly, I kneel by my bed or take a
walk outside and pray for my family. Christ is my anchor and prayer is
my solace. I couldn’t have made it without prayer. Many ideas and
solutions have come through prayer.
